People's resentment is not your responsibility.

 As you grow and evolve into the person you want to be, some people may have subconscious or even fully conscious resentment towards your growth. 

The phrase "growing apart" can be all too real.

Sometimes your progress can act as a mirror to the ways they are not progressing the way they had hoped. Or your success and achievements can cause jealousy as they feel they deserve that more than you. Also, it can be simply that they do not like the "new" you as much as the version of you that you had been, which is unfortunate because if they truly cared about you ever before, they should be happy for your own fulfilment.

Depending on the importance of the relationship, it can seem necessary to try to save it as this is happening. You may hide your accomplishments from them or try to act as the person you once was around them, but ultimately, this is an effort that doesn't nourish an authentic relationship.

An authentic relationship, whether platonic, familial, or romantic, should be based on an acceptance and celebration of someone's true self, their best qualities, and how they show up in one another's life. 

At any point if you find yourself shrinking and hiding the things that should be commiserated, well, the relationship is starting to grow distance. 

Authenticity and recognition are what keeps a relationship strong in the face of years of change.

The effort put into trying to force something to work that just isn't is effort better spent cultivating your own fulfilment or fulfilling relationships. 

If they are allowing negativity or stagnation on their own part to have a less-than-ideal effect on you, let them do that, but do not let it near you. Do not let it turn into work for you. It is not your responsibility. 

Give them time and space, find your own magic in other relationships, and if they are meant to be in your life, they will come back and show up as they should. 

- Dani 💚💙